Sifu, thank you very much for your reply. Allot of leads to follow up on and I will report back my findings.
Yes, I would expect allot of players here to be concerned of their performance and ethics. I, of course accept blame. I am absolutly at fault to have allowed this to continue to completion and I don’t make excuses for my behavior. I am a combat veteran with ptsd which has resulted in becoming very alerted when things get out control and admittedly a severe perfectionist as this sort of behavior is the reason I am alive today. This house purchase was a practical exercise in trust and ability to calm myself in matters where I am not confident. The process of the purchase of this house was very stressful. So, I am happily grateful it turned out the way it did. It could have been allot worse. My family is not homeless, the walls are not collapsing in. I feel like even someone here may provide a clever solution that I could execute with out even bothering with this contractor. So I am content. However, this contractor and realtor making unethical bussiness practices with other people being unaware is something I cannot live with. I need to hold them accountable one way or another so this never happens again. I AM embarrassed to say I got rolled by them. I’ve been in the military for so long that it’s like I don’t have working knowledge in the real world however there was a comment about learning something out of this deal and I am learning allot. Sorry for the sob story. I don’t need sympathy, I need knowledge.
In this neck of the woods, apparently, one can build houses with no credentials at all, no permits at all with no structural engineers plan with stamp or plan or approval from the township/county/city at all.